At times I feel like a failure, now that I’m 27, have never ___ ___, am overweight, don’t have a girlfriend, aren’t married, don’t have children, and am stuck in a nowhere job.
{ 2006 11 30 }
Concern
In Which We Worry and Complain Out Loud in Our Outside Voice
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Robert Mibus | 30-Nov-06 at 1:16 am | Permalink
Hey man,
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
You can’t change everything - especially not quickly - but you can (if you so desire) try to tackle the things that you *can* change.
eg., I’m overweight too. One day, a few months ago, I just up and decided I wanted to not be overweight any more. So I’ve started dieting. Not I’m-eating-rabbit-food dieting, and not even totally skipping out on chocolate or anything extreme. I’m in no hurry. I’m just eating less than I was before. I found this quite a refreshing overview:
http://www.fourmilab.ch/hackdiet/e4/
So far it’s working - I’ve lost ~10kgs and two belt notches
I’ve been reading your blog (via Planet Classpath) for a while, and you seem like a clever enough guy. I have no doubt that you’ll get a job elsewhere, if you keep trying.
As for the other stuff… A cute librarian where I worked felt pity for me (j/k!), and now we have two children… you can’t force it to happen, I’m afraid, but things have a way of sorting themselves out. In my experience, if you just try to “do your thing” and be happy with what you do, everything else usually falls into place.
So, enjoy your freedom, enjoy your sleep (little kids don’t sleep!), keep dropping job applications around the place, do what you can to improve your life.
Take care;
Paradox | 30-Nov-06 at 4:55 am | Permalink
Cheer up! As it currently says up the top of planet classpath, we love you Casey!
Anders | 30-Nov-06 at 8:55 am | Permalink
Hey cheer up! Your work on Jessie kept my hopes high when free Java was still far away… you rock!
Anders
davee | 30-Nov-06 at 9:40 am | Permalink
maybe this?
http://www.authenticmanprogram.com/
was thinking of their coaching myself.
csm | 30-Nov-06 at 12:17 pm | Permalink
Thanks for all the nice comments. I mean, jeez, I didn’t expect this (not that I could expect much, since I was drunk when I wrote it).
This mostly got prompted by me stepping on a scale recently, and finding out that my recent fascination with fine cheeses seems to have nearly pushed me out of the “overweight” body mass index category, and into the “obese” category. This scared the piss out of me.
It’s probably the stubborn Italian in me, but I don’t think I could bring myself to go to someone else for help in issues like this.
Linuxhippy... | 30-Nov-06 at 1:59 pm | Permalink
I totally agree - things happen when they happen. However the difference you can make how often it could happen. I met my girlfriend after using one of those single-chat-websites so … well … it deends. But don’t give up
You rock!
csm | 01-Dec-06 at 4:54 pm | Permalink
I cried a bit last night, because I was a bit drunk again, still sad, but overwhelmed and happy at how nice the responses I got were.